Start small: The key to overcoming shyness and social anxiety is to start small and take it easy. Do not expect substantial improvements within a short amount of time. Remember that old habits die hard. And shyness is more than just a habit; it is a well-engrained personality trait.
Attack your inner critic: Try to focus on the positives and avoid defeatist and negative self talk. If you always suffer from the voice of a harsh inner critic when you are on a social situation, learn to replace with something more positive such as an affirmation. For example, “I am socially apt and I have many friends.” Try to choose an affirmation that is geared towards your specific negative thoughts.
Mental imagery: Mental imagery is very important when trying to overcome shyness and social anxiety. When in a social situation, imagine yourself being successful in overcoming your shyness and having a very good time because of it. You can imagine yourself in a previous stress-free social situation that you experienced. If you cannot recall such an instance, create one in your mind. Imagine it with vivid details and it will boost your self-confidence and make you ready to go.